HOW TO MAKE YOUR HOME A LOVING HOME | BY DAYAN MASINDE

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1. “Get married”

In a generation where many are opting to co-habit, and living by the ‘Come-we-stay’ option; choose to get married. There is security in officially getting married, both of you feel most safe to give your all in the home. In a co-habit arrangement it is easy to walk away, easy to sometimes feel threatened, easy for the person who pays the rent or the bills more to make the other feel unwanted.

2. “Keep the bedroom warm”

The bedroom is the epicenter of the home, the mum and dad determine the climate in the house. All the other rooms are a reflection of the bedroom; if the bedroom is warm, the whole house will be warm. Handle your business well in the bedroom.

3. “Hang family photos”

Family photos allows every one in the family to reflect. When things are tough, looking at smiling photos of your family will inspire you to put effort in your valuable family. Sometimes we forget what is important, photos remind us. Display also plaques with loving quotes to remind every one what the family should stand for.

 4. “Eat together”

People connect best when having a meal, that is why most dates happen where eating is involved. Use the same practice as a family. At the dinning table, love happens, people laugh and talk.

5. “Work on communication”

Listen to each other, let no one – mother, father or even the smallest child feel locked out or chocked. Too many children grow quiet and withdrawn when the dad or mum gets home.

6. “Don’t argue in front of the kids”

Yes, you and your spouse will have moments you disagree; but never let the kids witness you two fighting. Shield your children, take these serious conversations and confrontations to the bedroom and solve them there, come out as a united team.

7. “Pray together”

A family that prays together loves together. Prayer softens and warms hearts. Do it together, not alone.

8. “Command your morning”

Start each morning on a high and positive note, speak life and love that sets the tone for the day.

9. “Dance”

Pump up the volume, dance and laugh. Act silly, home should be fun.

10. “Play some good music”

People have different taste in music, but as often as possible, you as the father or mother, play good and positive music. Play love songs, spiritual music, inspirational music; your children will remember you for that. Many people find love through music.

11. “Have movie nights”

Yes, you and your spouse are busy. But set aside at least one night a week or two weeks to sit down as a couple or family and watch a movie; preferably a movie your children will like and you as the adult you make yourself enjoy. The number one thing children long for is time with their parents. Just two hours of watching something together will show a lot of love.

12. “Entertain visitors”

Hosting visitors brings out the best in you, it challenges you to be more alert about your home because when it’s always you and your spouse and children you can get too comfortable. When people visit you, you feel proud of your home and project love. Visitors cause us to analyze our home.

 

13. “Play games”

Play competitive games as a family; whether video games, computer games, outdoor games or board games. Games unite us if we play them together, avoid games played alone.

14. “Decorate the house together”

When giving the house a make over or moving into a new house, let the taste and needs of every one in the family be put into consideration. The house should be a haven for each one.

15. “Kiss as mum and dad”

Kissing is an act of love. Let the children witness mum giving dad a kiss and dad planting kid-friendly kisses on mummy.

16. “Hug often”

As a family, set the tradition of hugging and showing affection. A hugged up person feels at home. Many people are grumpy and a warm hug will calm them.

 

17. “Do house chores together”

Yes man, chores are not for women alone. Do things as a team, divide chores; assign responsibilities to the children too. People feel they are part of something they are responsible for.

19. “Say I love you”

How do you expect your home to be loving if you refuse to say loving words?

20. “Celebrate special days”

Birthdays, Anniversaries, Graduation days, the return home from a long period of travel, the coming back home from being admitted in hospital, holidays; all those are moments you can use to unite the family.

 

21. “Go out on dates”

Leave the house sometimes and go out on a date with your spouse or as a family, when you come back home you will have plenty to remember and smile about. Dates break the monotony of being boxed in the house day after day.

22. “Sometimes turn off technology”

Technology is good, but also a threat to the quality of relationship in the home. Sometimes turn off the TV, the computer, the tablet, the phone and have quality family time.

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‘YOU DON’T HAVE TO BECOME SOMEBODY ELSE FOR GOD TO LOVE YOU!’

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‘YOU DON’T HAVE TO BECOME SOMEBODY ELSE FOR GOD TO LOVE YOU!’

To many times, we change who we are to get the attention of others, but not with God!

God loves you for who you are. Not for what you do. Not for what you possess and not for where you live. Those things do not concern Him.

When He created you, He created you in His love and no matter what you do, say or become, He will always love you for you, so you don’t have to change to impress Him or get His attention…He’s already aware of who you are and He already loves you for you!

May the grace of God keep you and the love of Christ Jesus forever rest upon you from this day forth!…Amen

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Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

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If you continue to feel sorry for yourself, your life will continue to suck.

But you know what? A good portion of people reading this will ignore what I just wrote and continue to feel sorry for themselves. They’ll tell themselves that they’re different, that they have it worse than everyone else, and that no one understands what they’re going through.

The truth is that people feel sorry for themselves because it feels good to feel sorry for yourself. Self pity is comforting, because it allows us to blame external forces for our misfortunes. It justifies not taking action when taking action would be difficult, stressful, and where it could lead to failure.

Sure, Bad Things Happen

Obviously not everything that happens to us is within our control. Accidents happen, people die, illness can strike, and fate can be cruel. But no matter what happens, you and you alone get to play the cards you’re dealt. You get to choose how you react when you lose your job, when you relapse and end up in rehab again, when your significant other cheats on you with your best friend.

Stop Focusing On What Other People Have

The more you focus on what other people have and what you don’t, the more you’re going to feel sorry for yourself. The more you feel sorry for yourself, the less you’re going to move forward in your life. Despite what you might tell yourself, I can guarantee that not everyone who has it better than you, started out with less than you.

There are also people in this world who were born with a silver spoon. They’ve had everything handed to them without having to work for it. They might even be arrogant about it, even though they did nothing to deserve their good fortune.

You know what? Be happy for them. Why not? How does their good fortune affect your life in anyway? You only get to play the hand you’re dealt, and the more energy you spend obsessing over someone else’s lot in life, the less energy you’ll have to work towards improving your own.

How Can I Move Beyond Self Pity?

Ok, that’s enough tough love. If you’ve read this far, you are probably ready to let go of your self-pity, but you don’t know how to do it.

As I mentioned earlier, one of the reasons its so hard to get rid of self pity is because its such a comforting emotion. It doesn’t take any effort to feel sorry for yourself, but it takes tremendous effort to overcome life’s challenges and become a better person for it.

To make things worse, once self pity sets in, it becomes an ingrained pattern in our mind that’s hard to get rid of. We get trained to think negatively, to start the pity party when things don’t go well for us. So what can you do the next time you start feeling sorry for yourself?

1. Implement a Zero tolerance policy

Start by telling yourself that you are no longer going to feel sorry for yourself. Right now, stop reading and take a moment to make this commitment to yourself.

It’s not going to be easy; you have ingrained patterns in your brain that encourage self-pity. But the next two steps should help you slowly but surely create new patterns.

2. Build Self Esteem

Self-esteem can be a wonderful tool for fighting off self-pity. When you feel strong and confident in yourself, you have little need to feel sorry for yourself. Of course, building self-esteem is not an easy thing to do, especially if you’re used to self-loathing and pity.

Building true self-esteem is a process that you work on bit by bit, day by day. Here are some things you can do to improve your sense of self-worth:

  • Exercise regularly and get into great shape
  • Learn about nutrition and start eating healthy
  • Do charity work
  • Meditate.
  • Form new hobbies that requires socializing
  • Do new things that are out of your comfort zone
  • Set small goals for yourself. Use these stepping stones to work towards achieving bigger goals.
  • Learn solid financial management. Learn that you don’t need to spend money to be happy, and that the things you own don’t define your worth

Don’t expect overnight changes, because they won’t happen. But if you keep striving for a tiny bit of personal improvement each day, one day you’ll look back at your old self and marvel at how much you’ve changed.

3. Be grateful for what you have

Is the glass half full or half empty? Even if the glass is only 1/100 full, the way we choose to perceive it is the thing that counts.

No matter how little you have, there’s no doubt you have things to be grateful for. The fact that you’re on the internet right now, connected to the world’s information superhighway and reading the thoughts of another human being thousands of miles away is a miraclein itself.

Choosing to be grateful for what you have is a direct attack on self pity. You can’t be grateful and feel sorry for yourself at the same time. Of course, if you’re used to choosing self-pity, it might be difficult to get into a grateful mindset.

To retrain your negative thought patterns, I want you to try this exercise. Every single day for the next month, write down 5 things you’re grateful for every morning. Do it without fail.

It can be as simple as being thankful for the fresh morning air, that first sip of hot coffee in the morning, the smell of fresh bacon in the frying pan, or even the fact that you’re alive. You can repeat the same 5 things everyday if you want, as long as you take the time to come up with 5 reasons to be grateful and write them down.

Self-pity is a habit and a choice. Take actions to unlearn this negative habit, and choose to bring some positivity into your life.

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Jesus Lives to Bear Our Sins

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In my daily Bible reading I have been reading in Leviticus about the various sacrifices for fellowship offerings, guilt offerings, and wave offerings.  Today, I read about the Day of Atonement in the 16th chapter:

‘”Aaron shall bring the goat whose lot falls to the LORD and sacrifice it for a sin offering. But the goat chosen by lot as the scapegoat shall be presented alive before the LORD to be used for making atonement by sending it into the desert as a scapegoat.” Leviticus 16:9-10

“When Aaron has finished making atonement for the Most Holy Place, the Tent of Meeting and the altar, he shall bring forward the live goat. He is to lay both hands on the head of the live goat and confess over it all the wickedness and rebellion of the Israelites—all their sins—and put them on the goat’s head. He shall send the goat away into the desert in the care of a man appointed for the task. The goat will carry on itself all their sins to a solitary place; and the man shall release it in the desert.”  Leviticus 16:20-22

OK, so, in the process of making atonement for the nation of Israel the priest takes two goats one is sacrificed and the blood of this goat is used to make atonement for the Most Holy Place, the Tent of Meeting, and the altar.  Then, he takes the live goat and lays both hands on it’s head and confesses over it all the wickedness and rebellion and sins of the Israelites.  In doing this, the Bible says all the sin is put on the goat.  Then the goat is released into the desert.

Of the two goats, the one that takes on the sins is the live goat.  Both goats are necessary.  The goat that is sacrificed makes it all possible by providing a way into the presence of God in the Most Holy place.  But, it is the living goat that bears the sins.

6a0111685b6406970c0111685c26d7970cTo fulfill God’s plan for our redemption Jesus had to die to bridge the gap between God and man.  His death allows us to enter the Most Holy Place and be in the presence of God.  But, it is his resurrection that allows Him to bear the burden of sin for a world sinners.  We have a relationship with God through Jesus’ death.  We have freedom from sin through his life.

Before I finish this post let’s consider this passage:

“But if it is preached that Christ has been raised from the dead, how can some of you say that there is no resurrection of the dead?  If there is no resurrection of the dead, then not even Christ has been raised.  And if Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith.  More than that, we are then found to be false witnesses about God, for we have testified about God that he raised Christ from the dead. But he did not raise him if in fact the dead are not raised. For if the dead are not raised, then Christ has not been raised either.  And if Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins.”

1 Corinthians 15:12-17

In that last verse Paul says, “…if Christ has not been raised, your faith if futile; you are still in your sins.”  Jesus had to rise again, like the goat that was allowed to live (the scapegoat); He had to be alive to bear our sins.

Please leave a comment and share your thoughts about this post.

Blessings in Jesus.

Tim

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Do You Have 30 Seconds For God Right Now?

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Most will ignore this.  Many will glance at it and move on.  But, are you one of the few who will stop and read this post to the end….Do You Have 30 Seconds For God Right Now?

God loves you so much and He wants to share so much with you that it’s breaking His heart that you won’t give Him a chance

God loves you so much that when He sees you doing things which is against His will; He still covers you with His love

God loves you so much that before you call or cry unto Him; He’s already figured out a plan to deliver you and take away your tears

God loves you….don’t you get it?

HE LOVES YOU!!!

Article by Laraine Turner

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Why Believers Must Have a Heart of Flesh

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Ezekiel tells us that we need to have a heart of flesh. And this heart of flesh can only come from God. This heart of flesh is in contrast to a heart of stone that so many people have. How can we get this heart of flesh?

The Meaning of a Heart of Flesh

In Ezekiel 36, God was talking to the Israelites and telling them what He would do for them when they came back to Him. Then He said: “Ezekiel 36:26 (NIV): “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.”

The Hebrew word for “flesh” (bawsawr) does refer to the body that we have. However if we look at the root from which bawsawr comes from, we can more clearly understand what God is talking about. It comes from the Hebrew word “basar” that means “to be fresh, to announce, preach, show forth good tidings.”

In other words, God will take our old heart of stone and replace it with a heart that is soft and pliable and full of good things. Understand that the word “heart” comes from the Hebrew word “lebab” that refers to our feelings, our will and even our intellect. Thus, it refers to the center of our very being, or who we really are.

This is Important for Us

This is something that we need to understand in these last days. If we want to win people over to Christ so they will not have to go through the Tribulation, we need them to see Christ in us. We need people to look at us and see our lack of fear, our love for everyone else, the peace that we have amidst all the turmoil that is around us.

We need people to look at us and say: “I want what you have.” The only way we are going to win people to Jesus in these last days is to show them through our actions that we have peace within us and confidence that God is going to win. We need people to look at us and ask: “Why are you so happy in the midst of all the tragedy that is happening all around us?”

Give Them a New Counselor

Believe it or not, we are all being guided around by some type of a spiritual guide. Deep within each of us is a longing for God. And if we don’t actively seek out God, other spirits will fill that longing that is inside of us. I know that is hard for many to accept, but if the one inside you that is giving you counsel is not God, then it is an evil spirit.

And remember, the only way for God to be living inside of you is to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior. When this happens, then the Holy Spirit can come and live inside of you. When the Holy Spirit is living in you, then no evil spirit can live there.

You Will Never Eliminate Evil Temptations

Once we accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior, Satan and his demons are actually going to work even harder to get us to go against God’s will for us. When we accept Jesus, Satan and his demons become very upset with us. But, do not worry, when we have the Holy Spirit living in us, all they can do is to tempt us.

And with the Holy Spirit as our new Counselor, He will guide us away from those temptations. However, we do have to listen to Him. We can still ignore Him and go our own way. But don’t! Allow the Holy Spirit to counsel you in all that you do.

Receive Your Heart of Flesh

Allow God to change your heart of stone into a heart of flesh. Allow God to mold you into the very being of love that He wants you to be. Allow God to be able to use you in these last days. Let God work through you to win others to Christ.

You will know if you have received this heart of flesh by your actions. The fruit that flows from you will show what is inside of you. If you are harsh, bitter, lose your temper easily, want to control others, etc. then you must realize that the one counseling you is not the Holy Spirit.

Remember what God said in Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV): “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” If God has given you a heart of flesh, then this is the fruit that you will be presenting to others.

Even Christians Need To Receive This Heart of Flesh

Believe it or not, we can accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior and still reject the counsel of the Holy Spirit. Remember, we can know who our counselor is by the fruit that flows from our lives. The problem is that we often don’t recognize the fruit that is flowing from us. This is why we need to talk to other born-again Christians.

Allow other born-again Christians to show us what they see coming out of us. Listen to what they tell us because they will see what we cannot see. Remember, if our counselor is not the Holy Spirit, that counselor will have blinded us so that we cannot see what is coming forth from us.

The Solution

Spend time in prayer with God, through Jesus. Allow Him to show you what is coming forth from your flesh. Find a good Bible-believing Church and start attending. Find a warm born-again Christian and ask him/her to counsel you. Let God work through His children to help you in your walk through life.

Article by Charles Kinsley

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A Savior Who Understands?

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We do not have a Savior who’s isolated in heaven with no idea what it feels like to have human struggles. No, our Lord left the glories of heaven behind and added humanity to His deity. He temporarily gave up the use of some of His attributes, applying them only as the Father directed Him.

Jesus understands precisely how we feel because He went through the same types of situations we do. Though details of our lives may not match His, the experiences and feelings are alike. Let’s look at several examples of how He identifies with us:

  • Misunderstanding: People constantly misunderstood His claims to be the Son of God.
  • Rejection: He was unappreciated by the ones He came to love and die for.
  • Pressure: Crowds surrounded Him, begging for help and demanding His attention.
  • Exhaustion: He experienced all the weakness of humanity.
  • Loneliness: At Gethsemane, when He needed human companionship the most, His closest friends fell asleep.
  • Temptation: Satan hit Him with every imaginable type of attack and temptation.
  • Hatred: Religious leaders despised Him.
  • Injustice: Though Jesus lived a sinless life, He died a criminal’s death.
  • Pain: He suffered the excruciating pain of scourging and crucifixion.

Whatever you’re going through right now, remember that Jesus knows how you feel and sympathizes with your pain and weakness. He may not remove the anguish or change your situation, but He’ll always give you the grace to resist temptation, endure suffering, and grow in spiritual maturity.

Article by Charles Stanley

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